About this event
Consent is about so much more than just saying "yes" and "no". Because how do you even know what you do and don't want? How does that feel in your body? And how do you communicate about that?
During this weekend workshop you will start to get to know your body's communication style, so that you can make more conscious choices about what you do and don't want to do.
The method we will be using during this day is the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin, which means its will be highly experiential, gently paced and designed to help you make choices that work best for you.
We will slow down, take time and space to feel and thus build a more authentic connection with ourselves, and the other.
This workshop will help you say No to things you don’t want, so that you can say a FULL YES to the things you do really want - that will bring you pleasure, joy, connection, and satisfaction.
❧ This event is for you if…
❤️You want to connect with an embodied sense of your desires and limits
🧡 You want to have more fulfilling intimate encounters, grounded in embodied consent
💛 You want to develop better communication skills around your desires and limits, in your intimate life and in other areas of your life
❧ What Will We Explore in this Workshop?
💛Connecting with your inner, embodied sense of what you want and don’t want - how it feels to be a Yes, No, or Maybe
💚 Different ways of expressing your desires, limits, and boundaries
💚 Ways to give and receive Yes’es and No’s
💙Feeling your authentic desire - what do you really want, and where does your mind pull you out of your embodied desire?
💙How it feels to get exactly the thing you want. How does your body respond when you can explore touch in a way that is safe and grounded in consent?
💜This workshop is not about attraction; it is about noticing desires and limits as they come up in the moment. In certain exercises you might ask for touch, and maybe even get it 🙂
💜 While exploring all this we will keep our clothes on
❧ What are the benefits of building Embodied Consent skills?
❤️ Moving away from black and white yes/no thinking, to finding ease in navigating desires from moment-to-moment
🧡 More pleasure and erotic satisfaction by being able to ask for the things you really want
💛 Feeling more agency in your s*xual interactions. Rather than simply going along with something you don’t love, being able to negotiate desires back to a Win-Win for both (or all) partners
💚 More confidence in your erotic and other relationships
💙 Greater sense of ease when connecting with new and old partners
💜 Deeper trust in oneself
❧ Who is this for?
❤️ People of all genders and sexualities. This space is created with queer people in mind, which means we invite everyone to notice and let go of any assumptions about gender(roles) and such. It also means we do not gender-match practice buddies. If you are straight, you are more than welcome to join though. See FAQ's for more :)
🧡 Recovering people pleasers: do you feel stuck in having to say Yes to people? Or in going along with things that are not quite as you'd like them?
💛 All levels of experience: we invite anyone to come with a beginner’s mind: what can you learn about yourself and your patterns?
❧ About Sinsia
Sinsia is a somatic sex coach who supports (mostly) queer people in creating the sex life of their choice. They specialise in shifting the focus from analysing to feeling, helping clients to integrate mind and body.
In other words: more doing than talking.
She is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, which means they are trained to be body oriented, trauma informed and client led. They also trained with Betty Martin at the School of Consent.
Sinsia worked as an escort for over six years before starting her coaching practice, an experience that informs and enriches their current work. She identifies as a queer, polyamorous, and kinky gender explorer and uses they and she pronouns (as demonstrated in this text 🙂.
❧ Practicalities
📅 When: December 20&21, 10.00-17.00
🗺️ Where: Amsterdam North (address on registration)
💵 Price: €225. For those on a low income, tickets are available at €175
❤️ Group size: max 16
💋 Language: English
❧ FAQ's
❤️ I think I am not queer (enough), am I welcome?
Yes. This is a space to explore and discover new things about yourself. So if you are willing to get curious about yourself, your patterns and your likes and dislikes you are welcome. It does not matter who you are attracted to, what pronouns you use or whether or not you are out of any closet.
What this space is NOT is a place to get all your questions answered about queerness in general. There are great video's on youtube for that.
If you are not sure, get in touch to discuss :)
❤️ Do I have to bring a partner?
You are welcome to come alone or with a partner. If you're joining individually, your focus will be on your personal growth and learning. If you're joining with a partner(s) the focus will likely be more on the relationship dynamic. If you with a partner(s) you are welcome to work together the whole time, or switch it up.
🧡 What if I don't want to do a certain exercise?
I am very explicit in offering different ways in which you can join in each exercise. Those options always include sitting to the side and witnessing, journaling or having a rest. You decide what feels good to you in each moment, and we make space for you to make that decision.
💛 Is it going to be very intense?
Doing new things is always intense. We have found that slowing down is a key ingredient in being able to feel and ask for what we want. So while the exercises might bring up emotions or breakthroughs, we make sure we go slow and take small steps. There will be breaks roughly every 90 minutes. There will also be a non-engagement zone, where yo can go and sit if you want to be left alone for a bit.
💚 How accessible is the space?
There are no thresholds or steps to get into the building or the room. While the toilet is spacious and stepless, there are no wall grips and such.
We will provide cushions, mats and chairs for sitting.
Please get in touch if you need more information or have concerns.
💙 I can't afford a ticket, can I get a discount?
There are discounted places available for those on low income. You can just choose that option when buying your ticket. We don't need you to explain or proof anything. If you are not sure if the discount is meant for you, send me a message :)
Still can't afford to come? Get in touch to talk options.
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